Don’t let disagreeable people or thorny circumstances determine your
Some folks are passive about their soul and their emotions. Christ speaks to
us Christians on this subject when He says “By your patience possess your souls” Luke
21:19 (NKJV). Jesus spoke these words to us in the context
of others betraying us. He says others might well be our relatives and friends not to mention our co-workers,
and bosses. This betrayal might run the spectrum all the way from what Judas did to Jesus down to just
someone giving us a “cold shoulder” or passing on a false rumor. The last two fruits of the
spirit mentioned in Galatians 5:23 are “gentleness and
A Christian is one
who has been born again by the Spirit of God. We have received eternal life and all the blessings that
go with being a Child of God. A child of God dresses up with all the spiritual clothes, or fruits of the
Spirit listed in verse 22 of Galatians 5. We
should be full of love, joy, peacefulness, patience, kindness, goodness and faithfulness. Not having these
fruits is like missing vital clothing (a recurring bad dream for many). You show nakedness as a believer
when you respond to this counsel with excuses like “you don’t know what kind of a husband I have” or “you
don’t know who I have to work with at the office” or “you don’t know what it’s like to have
headaches, or arthritic pain or to have problems with your children”. In other words “my circumstances
and the people I have to live with are my excuse”. Paul understood that Christ’s admonition
to “possess your soul” in the face of circumstances requires patience and a learned supervision of our personality
and emotions. In Philippians 4:11 he says
that he isn’t controlled by his wants and needs but has learned that whatever his circumstances or “state”
he must be content. He tells Timothy in I Timothy
6:6 that “Godliness with contentment is great gain”.
Just as a Christian shouldn’t yield his spirit to a hypnotist or a cultist
or a fortune teller he shouldn’t let the meanness of others or the circumstances of time and chance (Ecclesiastes 9:11) determine his countenance.
Relationships (especially marriage)
"Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of thy vanity,
which He hath given thee under the sun."
Living joyfully with your spouse requires following some important Biblical principles:
1. The choice of your life mate is vital. A believer should be married to a believer. "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers." II Corinthians 6:14
2. The Christian spirit is to prefer the other person over self.
This is a kind and affectionate idea. "Be kindly affectioned one to another
with brotherly love, in honor preferring one another." Romans 12:10
The spirit, especially in marriage, requires that you go beyond just meeting halfway. If the husband and
the wife each go past meeting halfway this unselfish and generous spirit causes a wonderful overlap of kindness.
Being Christian is being like Christ and the Lord has always done "...more
than we could ask or think..." Ephesians 3:20
4. Have the
humility to take criticism and learn from it. A Christian spouse should have the wisdom that is from above (James 3:17) and that includes being easy to
be intreated (willing to yield to correction).
"Be not slothful in business"
"Seest thou a man diligent in his business? He shall stand before kings."
nuggets of wisdom obtained from the Scriptures and from others:
1. Buy when everyone else is selling and sell when everyone else is buying. A corollary to this is "buy low,
sell high." This does not only apply to investments, but to all purchases. The scarcity of popular, new,
and exciting products runs the price up. Be patient and the new wondrous item will be half the price in a year or two
when inventories are high. Be a good shopper.
2. Get a second and third opinion
when making serious business decisions.
"Without counsel purposes are disappointed;
but in the multitude of counselors they are established." (Proverbs 15:22)
experience of others will help you and most successful people enjoy giving advice.
Don't go into business for yourself solely because you always wanted to have a business of your own. Higher motives,
coupled with sufficient capital, good management, and strong sales are necessary for such an enterprise to be successful.
"For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first,
and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it?" (Luke 14:28)
thorns and thistles (Genesis 3:18) that you encounter working for others do not disappear, but are approximately doubled when
you have others working for you.
4. Control your wanter. Don't
buy things you do not need and cannot afford. They will not be the blessing you hoped for but will be a curse.
This is especially true if you buy unnecessary things with credit cards. The necessary things will be unobtainable because
of the money consumed on the unnecessary things. There is no end to wanting once it takes control of your life.
"He that loveth silver shall not be satisfied with silver, nor he that loveth
abundance with increase: this is also vanity. When goods increase; they are increased that eat them: and what good
is there to the owners thereof; saving the beholding of them with their eyes." (Proverbs 5:10-11)
Do the Right Thing.